Marriage, get married, when are you inviting us, have you found someone, don't be choosy, your biological clock is ticking etc are the kind of stuff you hear from relatives, family , friends and well wishers when your a single lady between the ages of 28- 35.
I often wonder where it was written in the bible that marriages after age 30 is late . Isaiah 34:16 says
“Seek ye out of the book of the Lord, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them.
How stupid I have been in the past years worrying who my future hubby will be, and when he would come.
I am glad to say right now, that I am not bothered one bit. You know why? Because the word of God has said it and I strongly believe it.
There is just no point worrying , fretting , being afraid, all you need do is pray and stand on the promises of God and let him do the magic.
I was inspired to write this post after a friend of mine said to me '' Chidinma , I am 30 already, I do not want to be an old maid''.
She later went ahead to narrate her ordeal in the hands of men all in the name of wanting to settle down.
I'll just pick one of them which I feel or deem necessary to discuss on this blog.
Basically, it is the case of guys pressurizing a single lady to get pregnant to certify her fertile before proceeding with marriage rites.
My friend ( Not mentioning any name) opened up about this certain suitor who gave her an ultimatum to either get preggers before proceeding with any marital rites or hit the road.
My tentacles literally rose and eyes popped as she sought my thoughts with regards her predicament.
What rubbish , I said to her. If you want to get pregnant for him before he proceeds with marital rites, It is totally up to you and you are on your own.
Be aware that it's not in alignment with the word of God, so whatever consequences that arise as a result, you have to bear on your own.
While some ladies have done it , and it worked, some have and it backfired leaving them to remain baby mama's I told her.
''Can you Imagine, I actually slept with him without protection, and he came inside me, luckily I didn't get pregnant'' It wasn't what I really wanted, but I went along she continued.
At that point I screamed. You mean you met him,started dating, no tests whatsoever and you proceeded to let him get you pregnant all in the name of getting married? That is so horrible and risky mehn!
Forget STD's , what about HIV? You would have probably contacted the virus if he his positive I said.
At this point, she began fretting and crying , realizing her grave mistake.
I consoled her advising her to pray about it and go test herself.
My dear single ladies, if a guy truly loves you, he would not ask you to get pregnant as a basis for paying your dowry .
While I agree that most men do it because some ladies have ruined their wombs or lived roughly, it should be noted that there are still descent ladies out there.
We all know sleeping with a guy before marriage is wrong in the sight of God, yet we do it due to lack of self control , or immense sexual urges and fire burning in us. The difference is the act was done by our own free will in this case.
But in a case where having sex or getting pregnant is given as a ultimatum before marriage happens , they guy should be the one to hit the road.
Ladies, we are beautiful, fearfully and wonderfully made and getting married is just one of the numerous things that completes us , not the sole thing.
Have standards, don't allow people treat you as trash, do not settle for mega less and above all, pray and hold unto God's promises.
I'll be on ground to blog about your nuptial's soon.
As for mine , don't worry. I have my asoebi colors ready.
At the right time, my cards will be sent out '' wink''.
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