Friday, 6 June 2014

DILEMMA! CAN I MARRY A LIBERAL MUSLIM AS A CHRISTIAN?





My name is Thelma , I am a young lady in my early 30's , a banker by proffession and a devout Christian.
I have been going through a huge dilemma and it has given me sleepless nights for some months now.
All through my 20's, I kept meeting all sorts of guys and men, dated a couple, but none worked out till I met Jubril. Jubril is everything that I desire in a man, dedicated, loving, super generous , responsible etc.

The only challenge is that his family is Muslim and I am  from a Christian background.
While news sites and TV stations are agog with the Sudanese woman sentenced to death for marrying a Christian, such laws don't apply in Nigeria.
Jubril confesses he is liberal with regards religion, as he attends church services with me sometimes.
He is beginning to talk seriously about wanting to spend the rest of his life with me, but I am afraid.
I asked him where our children would worship incase we did .'' Would they go to the mosque on Friday, and come with me to church on Sunday'', but he mentioned it didn't matter, they could go wih me if that would make me happy.
I spoke to my mum about him and she dosen't consider it a good idea. My friends are even dazed, I'm considering the thought of us settling.
''He may be liberal, but what about his family?'' my best friend  Lilian quizzed, and I had no answers to give.
I have read a couple of relationship books and most emphasize religious compartibility.
The sad aspect is that I am in my early 30's and it took me time before I met Jubril. Good guys are truly hard to come by.
My mum has urged me to be open minded to meeting someone else, but my job dosen't give me that time .Besides, the whole  process of getting to meet and know someone new is an arduos task.
Since he is liberal towards religion, is it safe to go ahead with the marriage?

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