I may not be in the mood to write now because of the overwhelming love atmosphere around me. For over 36 years, I have been glued to just one person, a woman with a difference, a woman who despite being tormented by the Charlyboy brand had stood by me. I’m talking about that woman who at every point in our journey has kept the promises she made to me when we first took the vow. I bow to this woman.
Sometimes, Charlyboy could be stubborn, trying to torment our home, but she knows the difference between Charlyboy and her husband, Mr. Oputa. This eulogy will not be enough to convey how I feel about this woman who added yet another year just some days ago. I love her so dearly. But my pain is that the family is an important nucleus of the society, yet it’s not an extension of the society.
It is supposed to form the bedrock with which the society transcends. My family has been made a rock with which I survive, through which I smile in the most joyous way, yet, the same love, I do not get from the larger society. The same love that binds my family together is completely absent in the Nigerian context. The contrary is the case. Because politicians are now known for not keeping to their vows, they have become permanent enemies of the people.
Nigeria has been an entity for over 50 years, yet our love for each other continues to grow sour at each passing day. But I don’t want to lay blame. I don’t think it’s right to point at a particular direction. I don’t think so… As I celebrate my 36 years of marriage relationship with the only apple that my eyes behold, I would also wish to know how faithful and honest our politicians are to those of us who voted for them. Most of them, we have rode several kilometres to campaign for, hoping that a day will come when we will all smile and celebrate in the most pleasant and mutual way, but at the end of the day, the chorus remains the same. Will this political marriage continue?
Between the husband and the wife, who should be more responsible and respectful? My Bible tells me that it’s a mutual thing. Our submission and desire to keep our love glowing has played a major role in the love we try to protect. It is important to say that when two cannot agree, there will be disagreement. The masses are supposed to be deeply in love with their leaders, but because leaders only protect the immediate walls that separate them from the outside world, the masses struggle to pull them down.
The pain of hunger and poverty has pushed the ordinary man to go against their leaders in the most ferocious way. If Lady D had been selfish in this love game, we would have been apart by now. We are still together, and will remain together forever, renewing our honeymoon. This is so because she knows my passion, she eats what I eat, enjoys what I enjoy, shares in my pain and vice versa.
Does leadership truly mean sharing in the pain of the ordinary man? Does it really mean making sacrifices for others? Who will sacrifice for the other? Most time in marriage, the problem usually is the couple’s inability to know whose responsibility it is to make sacrifices. Most times both claim they had worked for the other so much that sacrifice was no longer needed in the relationship; it then becomes the survival of the fittest. With such attitude, the relationship is automatically turned to a jungle, where the wildest beast survives. When such exists in a marriage relationship, jungle justice will then take over the scene. With this development, a husband may wake up to make the most ridiculous decision ever in a jungle-like manner.
In this sense, do we still see marriage as an everlasting covenant? Do we still see it as something that is protected by vows? Are we still keeping to the terms that established it? Can we still recognise the love that formed this marriage? Our politicians must answer these basic questions. After having taken an oath for the office they presently occupy, they have decided to make corruption their foot stead. Which wife can be faithful when the husband batters her every day?
Which wife will be respectful when hunger speaks to her on a daily basis? Which wife will continue to live with a man who shows her little or no respect? What kind of wife will be so attached to the extent of dying for the husband in the most unjust way. All I see in most marriages is that when the wife becomes uncaring, the man finds solace in another woman outside the house, and when the husband shows so much of promiscuity, the wife goes wild, and then the family is destroyed.
If the mutual respect and love aimed at guarding and protecting these two lovebirds becomes obscure, the two will get confused, leading to an unexpected break-up. Now, look at it again from this point of view; Where is the love and respect when the ordinary man feels he has lost everything he supposedly own to corrupt politicians, and he gnashes his teeth on a daily basis? Where is the vow when not even a day is made to look like the love I share with my wife, Lady Diane. For us to get the peace we implore, we must imbibe the Charlyboy philosophy of unceasing love between the leaders and the led.
With this, love would be retained. With this, demolition of houses would be stopped. With this, the homeless would be provided some roofs on their heads, and the ordinary man would always have something on his desk to keep his teeth shining. As for me and my beautiful wife, Lady D, we have just begun our honeymoon, and we pray this love is extended to the larger society.
Source:sun news
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