Following Ini Edo's divorce from her husband Phillip Ehiagwina, my mind began pondering. Is there some sort of bad spirit hunting stars or directly proportional to stardom and being successful? I took a poll on our favourite lady celebrities in Nigeria and Ghana and found that 95 percent were either divorced , still single (never married) , married to another woman's husband, remarried after a divorce or baby mama's.
There is no way I'd ever believe every lady in the limelight is a bad egg and not capable of keeping a home. Out of all our favourite celebs, there are still women who are level headed, submissive and loyal to their spouses, responsible and capable of keeping good homes.
What then is the problem? Could it be that Nigerian / African men in diaspora are actually threatened by their women's successes, or does the fact that these women rake in millions and are celebs get into their heads causing them to neglect their homes ? It cannot be.
Reading blogs and watching interviews of single men, most wanted smart, intelligent , success oriented , peaceful etc wives.
So I started with my poll ( Not in anyway yabbing or mocking these celebs ooo) Funke Akindele and Comedian Princess- Smart, talented, successful, great entertainer's divorced after a year, Linda Ikeji- Rich, beautiful , a great blogger and entertainer (still single in all her hotness), Rita Dominic- Stainless porcelain fair skin, stylish, super talented (single) , Queen Nwokoye, Genevieve Nnaji, Agbani Darego, Toolz (super hot and curvy) , Adora Oleh, Dolapo Oni, Eku Edewor,Susan Peters, Jocelyn Dumas etc super talented, hot , sassy and stylish , charismatic , talented with successful careers etc all still single.
Chika Ike, Uche Iwuji, Juliet Ibrahim, Jackie Appiah, Monalisa Chinda, Anne Njemanze, Uche Obodo, Kate Henshaw, Kenny Saint Brown etc, separated / divorced from their spouses.
Stephanie Okereke, (remarried after the collapse of her first marriage).
Then I felt a burden. What then could be wrong? Why is this actually so?
A friend of mine who recently called it quits with her boo felt the best way to get over her break up was to find love again as quickly as possible.
She'd beg and ask me to escort her to places like the mall, the beach and other crowded places were she could be seen by a potential dude.
After attempting it twice with no results , I came to the conclusion that getting hitched and remaining hitched for long wasn't directly proportional to the amount of exposure one got as all the ladies mentioned above still have personal issues irrespective of the amount of exposure they have.
I resorted to sleeping or chilling rather touring crowded places in the name of being seen.
I came to the conclusion agreeing with that verse of the bible that says in Romans 9: 16
I WILL HAVE MERCY ON WHOM I HAVE MERCY, AND I WILL HAVE COMPASSION ON WHOM I HAVE COMPASSION." So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy.
I also pondered on why their colleagues in the entertainment business never approach them for lasting relationships, but go out of the entertainment circle getting hitched to other women.
Could it be that they actually feel threatened?
While I agree that some of these ladies personally enjoy their total freedom and won't want to be saddled with drama from the male folk, it cannot be said for everyone.
Omotola Ekehinde has proven one could be successful, in the limelight and still have her family intact. Oya, can you think of anyone else? Now you see!
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